#Me too another
way to express support for
I’m sure the scandal in Hollywood right now will have come to your notice even if you express no interest in that cosseted world. The horrible behaviour of this sex pest (who, it has turned out, is not the only one with a director under fire now as well) and his attempt to deny or excuse it and appear a victim are bad enough – articles asking if he ‘suffers’ from sex addiction only support him – but actresses getting suspended from Twitter for being angry at other, male, actors who knew about it is a totally unfair act by Twitter when there are plenty of other accounts they should be suspending (try the guy in the White House, the biggest creep ever to take up office there).
In Japan, sexual harassment is seku hara. There have been some comments from Japan on this hashtag but it hasn’t made huge waves yet there apparently.
We all know about the female-only carriages in Japan and of late Mexico as well. How effective they are is hard to say. It would be hard to enforce this separation elsewhere especially as they want to, and need to, bring more women into the workplace in Japan.
Women being harassed in offices, in bars and other social events, and on streets around the world while going about their daily business or trying to unwind at night feel this humiliation as well. Their immediate supervisors, or their bosses in higher positions, in the workplace might not be in the same powerful position regarding their chances of getting ahead but the fact that they have to endure these people every day trying to make inappropriate contact with them or even just making smutty comments, and even spreading rumours about them, makes it no less humiliating. Sometimes, women join in for their own various reasons giving men, even obliviously, the message it’s ok to do so. I’ve worked with women like this unfortunately who from appearances acted like ‘friends’ to the woman. Yeah right, toxic friends. Women can be real bitches to each other. However, that does not excuse the behaviour of, or language used by, these men. So, a man saying ‘Oh she said it (against such and such a woman) so I can say it’ is bullshit.
It doesn’t just happen in the office or other workplaces. Getting called various things on the street because you’re wearing the ‘wrong’ type of clothes – tight jeans, baggy jeans, short skirt, long skirt, burka, no burka – or because someone just feels like saying it to you. Unbelievable. You’d love to turn to them and ask them if they’d like if someone said that to, or otherwise groped (or worse), their mother, sister, daughter, niece, granddaughter, grandmother etc. The granddaughter and grandmother ones might shock them but that’s the point as they have shocked some random woman by calling her something for no reason. But there is the worry that you’re giving them attention by even responding to them. While they read your silence as consent to keep going. Each person is responsible for what comes out of their mouths and with regards to actually touching a woman, no one woman ‘makes’ them do anything or ‘makes’ them express their opinion. A lot of men know this and yet still act this way.
Well, in case anyone might be wondering how ‘me too’ is expressed in Japanese, ‘Watashimo’, or ‘atashimo’ more specific to women, is the most basic translation of saying ‘me too’ in Japan. If you’re a guy who’s been harassed you’d say ‘bokumo’ or ‘oremo’. This might mean ‘I share the same opinion’ just as much as ‘this has happened to me too’ but a person’s opinion is often based on prior experience and of course you can be sharing the opinion with everyone else that this behaviour is not right on any occasion, towards anyone. People are free to correct me on this if they know a more colloquial way but it seems quite simple to me.